Lifetime Learning: Management

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What are the causes of conflict? It is too late to think of the cause if you are already in a conflict. The best time to think of the causes of conflict is during peacetime so to speak.

How many times have you made the same mistake repeatedly and triggered the causes of conflict?

Given below are the common causes of conflict:

Mind reading – you assume negative things the other person is thinking about you and feel angry.
You are so self-centered that you fail to consider other person’s needs.
You are carrying a heavy baggage of hurts, insults, and suspicions.
Your Leadership and management styles are authoritarian.
Your Leadership and management styles do not leave any room for listening.
You are taking relationships for granted.
You are under tremendous stress, or you are unable to spot the stress in others.
You have a suboptimal Leadership and management styles.
You have poor conflict resolution skills.
Your empathy is so low that you are unable to put yourself in other’s shoes.
You have differences in values with others, and you are not even aware of it.
Your goals are misaligned with others, and you are pulling in different directions.
You have an inbuilt prejudice that you are not even aware of, and it is affecting your relationship with certain kinds of people repeatedly.
You have very poor listening skills and most of the time you are not registering in what others say.
You are very selfish, and you are concerned only of your needs and wants.

These are some of the main causes of conflict. A lot of it has to do with your personality and some of it has to do with your Leadership and management styles.

The bad news is that you will find it difficult to change as these are hardened habits of behavior. However, the good news is that you can change if you are determined and work hard.

The first step you can take is to increase your awareness of these causes of conflict and resolve to remove the causes one by one.

It will also be a good idea to go for some excellent training programs where they teach you leadership management styles that are based on sound leadership and management values.

Are you the change agent in your life? - Rolê em Vila Velha - Praia de Itapoã (Photo credit: Lia Scarton Carreira)

You are living in turbulent times just like all of us are. The amount of change you are experience in your work as well as your personal life is much greater than what your ancestors might have experienced.

Hence change management is not just for organizations; it is also for you and your family too. Change management is one of the most important skills you need to do day in day out.

It is very vital that you add the role of a change agent to all other roles you are playing. The role of a change agent is a very important role, and a role that you will have to play throughout your life.

The definition of a change agent: Change agent is a person who will facilitate the change within an organization or a team.

Applying this definition to your life you need to find out who is in charge of change management in your life?

Who is the change agent in your life? Have you ever thought about this very important subject? Many people have consciously or unconsciously abdicated this role to others.

Here are a few questions you need to ask yourself to ensure effective change management in your life:

Are you aware of the concept of change management?
Who is the change agent in your life?
Who are the people who are calling the shots in your life?
How many times have you played the role of a change agent in your life?

Playing the role of a change agent means that you are taking charge of your life and being responsible for all aspects of your life. It is one of the most important roles you will ever play.

Here is an exercise for you to do after you read this post.

Take an inventory of all the events that have brought about major changes in your life and make a detailed list of them. Ask yourself how many of these change events you actively participated as a change agent? You may be surprised at the results!

Take charge and be the change agent in your life!

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