Conflict avoidance with loved ones.

Conflict avoidance with loved ones.

Do you frequently get into conflict situations with your loved ones? If your answer is affirmative, then you need to take stock of what is happening. While it is good to bring out differences in the open and resolve conflict situations, it is also necessary to strive for conflict avoidance. 


Conflict avoidance means those conflict situations that arise because of your negligence and carelessness. 


Here are some typical examples of negligence: 

• Forgetting to cap the toothpaste 
• Forgetting to say, “Good Morning” if that is your habit 
• Not informing that you are coming home late 
• Not keeping your promises 
• Not listening when your spouse is talking to you 
• Saying, “No” without thinking 

The list can go on. What you need to do is come up with a list like the one above. It is a good idea to keep a log book to note down all the triggers that precipitate conflict situations. 


After observing for a week or two you will be able to consolidate the main reasons for the conflict. This list of main reasons can be used for conflict avoidance.


Once you have an accurate list, you can begin to examine it carefully. Apply the Pareto Principle if the list is a long one.  What are the 20% of the causes that trigger 80% of the conflict situations? 


Choose three items from the prioritized list and begin to work upon them for conflict avoidance. 


You will very soon see the magic that begins to happen in terms of this strategy of conflict avoidance.