Human Resources - Twelve easy steps to get a dream job?



Human Resources - Twelve easy steps to get a dream job?

Are you bored with your current job or even your career? Whatever be your status, this post will set you thinking in the right direction and show you steps to get the dream job you want. 

The last place to seek help is your human resources department. While the human resources department is very useful for many other things, it is less helpful for finding you a dream job.

Every human resources department of every company is set to guide you based on the organization’s agendas around which it operates. Hence, your human resources department has its own limitations.

Let’s first define a dream job:

A dream job is one that will wake you up in the morning. It is a job you will be obsessed about. A dream job will make you work 24/7, and you will still feel fresh.

If you ask your human resources department for guidance, they will not have such a job for you. If they have, then you are lucky, and you need to grab it.

If you are bored with your job, then there is a good chance that it is not aligned to your vision of an ideal job.

The usual ways' people arrive at their jobs are given below:

• Chance played a major role in their choice
• They took a job their friends went after
• Parental guidance led them to take their current job
• They got locked into a job based on what they studied in college
• They took the job solely for the money it offered

Well, the list can go on and on. About, 80% of your company’s employees would have landed their jobs based on above routes. This is the reason why your human resources department finds it so difficult to motivate employees and keep them motivated.

Given below are some steps you can take immediately to land yourself a dream job.

Here are the steps:

1. Accept that, your job is boring and stop rationalizing about it
2. Go to a quiet place and write for 5 minutes the kind of job that will excite you based on the definition given in  this post
3. Be bold and challenge everything while you write about  your dream job
4. Write about your dream job without any limitations in your mind
5. Revisit what you have written after a day or two.
6. Finalize the dream job write up after a week.
7. Draw up an action plan for getting your dream job
8. Consider re-skilling if necessary
9. Determine a deadline for getting your dream job
10. Network with people who are already in your dream job
11. Land your dream job
12. Celebrate

You may be able to get a your dream job quickly, or it may take you a few years depending on your situation. However, you will find that is not only the dream job that will excite you but also the very journey to reach your dream job that will be fulfilling.

Once you land your dream job then you can tell the human resources department the real reason you are quitting, which is boredom. Hopefully, you will set them thinking.

Get quick wins in every endeavour!

Get quick wins in every endeavour!

A quick wins mindset is very important if you want to demonstrate success to yourself or others. If you have a quick wins mindset then you will strive for it in every endeavour .

What are the advantages of a quick wins mindset? 

A quick win will: 

• Build your confidence
• Build trust rapidly 
• Demonstrate that you are heading for success
• Build your morale
• Build your teams' morale
• Lay a strong foundation for success
• Will delight your customer
• Will delight your boss

How do you develop a mindset that will help you to have a quick win every endeavour?

Here are some tips to get a mindset to develop quick win outcomes in every endeavour:

1. Develop an affirmation, write it down and read it daily
2. Search for opportunities in every endeavour for a immediate wins
3. Before embarking on any outcome have a "quick win pause"
4. Ask the quick win question in your team meetings-"Can we identify any rapid wins as we are developing a plan of action?"
5. Develop a separate tracking mechanism to monitor progress
6. Have a critique periodically and take course corrections
7. Generate a  report of success and share it with your team and your boss
8. Reward yourself for success in the endeavour
9. Celebrate every accomplishment either alone or with your team

Developing  quick win habits, norms and culture are very important and every leader and manager should strive for them. Consistent effort in developing a quick win culture will crown every endeavour as a success. Go for quick wins from this moment.

  

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Time Travel-Ten Powerful Tips To Stop Imagining A Bleak Future!

Time Travel-Ten Powerful Tips to Stop Imagining A Bleak Future!

Do you constantly time travel in your mind to a dark future with bleak future prospects for yourself? Do you imagine things going wrong? May be your boss just called you and wants to have a word with you and you begin to imagine negative things happening .You time travel into the meeting in your mind and cascade one negative event after the other until you get completely stressed out.
If this time travel is a recurring habit then you need to get rid of it as it will cause a lot of tension for you. Almost all the negative predictions never come true and you get unnecessarily stressed.

How do you stop imagining negative things happening in the future? Here are some very powerful tips to stop such pessimistic time travel in your mind:

1. Get the negative thought out of your head on to the paper
2. Examine the negative thought and label it as a distortion
3. Check the likelihood of the event happening on a scale of one to ten
4. Attack the negative thought on paper and substitute it with a positive one
5. Share the negative thought with a trusted friend
6. Make a list of all the negative thoughts you have had in the recent past to feel amazed of how you fool yourself
7. Keep this list handy and add the current negative thought to that list
8. Examine all the factors within your control that can be acted upon to prevent the faint possibility of your negative thought coming true
9. Remember all the tight situations you were in the past and how well you handled them
10. Re-affirm the confidence in yourself about your capability of handling any type of crisis, leave alone this puny negative thought and prediction

These powerful steps can completely destroy the negative thought and help you to deal with any situation confidently. It will also help you to break the ill effects of time travel into a gloomy imagined future.

Time Wasters - Ten Easy Steps To Tackle Them!

Time Waters-Ten Easy Steps To Tackle Them!

How do you feel right now? Are there time wasters eating up your day? How has the day gone by so far?

If your answer is yes to the fact that there are lots of time wasters making you unproductive, then you need to take action immediately. The more alert you are to the endless possibilities of time wasters, the easier it will be for you to avoid them.

You have wasted the day if you have the following symptoms:

• You have a nagging feeling that you did not accomplish much
• You have a feeling that you did not do work that will contribute to yourself or others
• You spent hours on FaceBook, Twitter or any other social-networking sites
• You are stressed.
• There is a deadline coming up, and you have done nothing about.
• You have missed the deadline, and this is happening frequently.
• You are doing only work given to you by others.

 The list can go on as there are endless opportunities of wasting time on any given day. How do you stop these time wasters from grabbing your attention? Here are some tips to do just that:

  

1. Take an inventory of time wasters
2. Set out clearly what you want to accomplish for the day
3. Take stock of what goal you can pursue on a particular day keeping in mind the unplanned demands that come to you.
4. Write on a Post It or anywhere the goal you have selected to pursue
5. Start working on the goal even if you have to work only for ten minutes at the earliest opportunity.
6. Continuously come back to the goal after tackling important interruptions if any.
7. Keep doing this until you have accomplished your goal
8. Reward yourself
9. Select a new goal
10. Continue applying these steps

 You will be amazed at how much you can accomplish in a day. Take stock at the end of the month you will be very pleased at how much you have accomplished.

Fifteen Powerful Tips to Make Your New Year Resolution Stick!

New Year Resolution

It is that time of the year when you are making New Year resolution. It may be that you want to exercise regularly, or give up smoking, or to eliminate a bad habit such as procrastination.

It is easy to identify a New Year Resolution but very difficult to make it stick. Most of the people will give up after a few days or few months You need a lot of motivation to keep your New Year Resolution stick.

However many people do not realize that taking action often leads to motivation rather than just waiting for motivation to show up for them.

Given below are few tips to make your New Year Resolution stick:

1. Start small
2. Determine what is success and what is a failure ( If you exercise daily it is a great success if you do not exercise even twice a week it is a failure)
3. Determine the point in your effort beyond which it is a failure ( Example: the minimum amount of exercise to name it as a success is three times a week)
4.  Do not try to be perfect.
5. Allow yourself permission for failure
6. Do not go on an all-or-nothing mode.
7. Reward yourself periodically for motivation
8. Plan your rewards-weekly, monthly, quarterly, and at the en of the year
9. Team up with others who are trying to get their New Year Resolution through.
10. Be kind to yourself
11.  Identify a person who will encourage you and also warn you.
12. Create a review mechanism
13. Determine the frequency of the review
14. Review with a friend
15. Take corrective actions

Try these powerful tips and very soon you will be celebrating and feeling good because your motivation will stay with you through out the year.

Your New Year Resolution will be so successful that others will come to you for help.

Learning Secret- The Biggest Of Them All



Learning Secret - The Biggest Of Them All

What is the biggest learning strategy among all other learning strategies you can use? Have you ever admired people who have learnt something to the point of near perfection? There is one major difference between people who learn things to perfection and the rest of the world.

 

The one thing they have and most of the other people don’t have is a trait called persistence. There are many learning strategies. However, persistence is the most important of them all. Most of the people give up easily as the learning curve becomes steeper.

 

The question you need to ask yourself is the following: How quickly do I give up before I attain near perfection? A good way to find out is to look back and check out how much stuff you pursued and gave up when the going got tough.

 

Some of the common pursuits people give up are given below:

 

1. Math
2. Photography
3. Dancing
4. Karate
5. Playing a musical instrument
6. Making a presentation
7. Public speaking
8. Clinching a sales deal
9. Composing a poem
10. Writing a book
11. Golf
12. Singing
13. Painting
14. Learning a software

 

The list can be endless. If you are learning something, and you give up you are missing a big opportunity to excel in something where you have talent. Among all learning strategies, not giving up is one of the most important one.

 

In fact, you may be surprised that if you pursue beyond a certain point, you will suddenly feel in control; your performance will improve exponentially, and you will be able to one day attain mastery.

Persistence will not only help you to learn faster, but it will also help all other learning strategies you may be using.

 

Problems For Teenagers-Handling Them Effectively!

Problems For Teenagers-Handling them effectively!

Problems for teenagers are many. Handling them effectively and guiding them is a skill every parent or teacher or guardian should learn. How do you guide a young boy or a girl to do the right things? This is a question, every parent, teacher or any well wisher faces when they have to guide children between the ages of 15 to 18 and perhaps even beyond.

You need to understand the dynamics of the situation regarding problems with teenagers before you attempt to do anything.



Problems for teenagers are brought about by forces acting on them today? There are external forces and internal ones.


External forces that bring about problems for teenagers:


1. TV-violent programs and programs with matured content
2. Video games-Violent games with matured content
3. Peer influence-both the good and the bad influence
4. Role models – the good ones and the bad ones
5. Internet-Heavy usage for both good and bad
6. Social networking-the invisible influence
7. Relatives-good influence and bad influence
8. Advertisements-the positive ones and the negative ones
9. News-All kinds of news, mostly negative
10. Tremendous pressure to study-especially in Asian
      countries
11. The pressure you put on them as a parent.
12. Competition with peers, cousins, relatives or anyone the
      child thinks he or she is competing with.


Internal forces that spur problems for teenagers:


1. Hormones
2. The need to belong, especially to a peer group
3. The need to be independent
4. The need to be considered grown up
5. The need to be respected for his or her own opinion
6. The need to excel and be a success
7. Fear of failure
8. Inappropriate self-esteem
9. The need to look good in the eyes of the peers
10. The need to look good in the eyes of the parents


This is not an exhaustive list. However, you can immediately see how powerful these influences can be to bring about problems with teenagers. Many of the external forces are invisible to you.


Here are some tips to make your child do things that will be beneficial to him or her:


1. Build trust
2. Communicate-Listen with empathy
3. Become his or her friend
4. Spend quality time with your child
5. Discuss the day to day events in your child’s life with him
    or her
6. Know that your child needs parental guidance not just for
    movies but for life too
7. Be aware of the peer group your child belongs to
8. Clarify expectations of behavior with your child
9. Have fun together
10. Help your child to deal with the pressure from the school
11. Be alert to mood changes, especially signs of feeling low
12. Set goals together, both in studies as well as sports
13. Encourage your child to have many hobbies
14. Encourage your child to try out new things to discover his
      or her talents
15. Discuss the future, especially of the career path your
      child wants to take
16. Get an aptitude test done
17. Teach your child that success is important and failure too
      from a learning perspective
18. Introduce your child to wholesome self-help books
19. Be alert of negative influence of others on your child
20. Dream together of a very successful future
21. Help your child to develop a “ can do” attitude
22. Role model wholesome behavior
23. Be kind
24. Discuss with your spouse about your child
25. Solve problems together with your spouse so that both of
      you have one voice regarding the solution.


Problems for teenagers are many. However, these are some of the things you can do to make your child do things that will be beneficial to him or her.

Real Friend-How To Get One?

Real Friend?

Real friend is rare. It is very difficult to get a real friend. In your day to day life, you may come across a lot of acquaintances, who you meet, interact with, and they go their way. With the advance of technology, people with whom you come in contact with are enormous compared to your parents or grandparents. You cannot live without a real friend and still enjoy life.


How do you spot a real friend?
Here are a few tips:
1. They are trustworthy.
2. They keep their promises.
3. They are kind.
4. They support you in times of trouble.
5. They help you without any thought of any gain for
    themselves.
6. They critique you when you are wrong.
7. They warn you of the consequences of your wrong actions.
8. They empathize with you.
9. They are willing to forgive you for your mistakes.
10. They keep in touch with you even if you have not talked
      to them for a long time.
11. They are open to ask you for a favor but do not hold you
     to it.
12. They are the first to be with you when you are sad.
13. They are the first to be with you when you are happy.
14. They are happy for your success.
15. They celebrate your success.
16. You have a great urge to share with them everything,
      especially your secrets.
17. They share their secrets with you.
18. They keep your secrets to themselves.
19. They support you when all others have abandoned you.
20. They know when you want to be alone and respect that.

Real friend will exhibit all these behaviors. If you don’t have friends with characteristics depicted in the above list, it is time to get them. The best way to attract them is for you to become a sincere friend first. If you do that people will treasure you and among the many people who flock you, you will find some real friends.

How To Prevent Accidents?



How To Prevent Accidents?

How to prevent accidents is an important skill you should learn. Can accidents be prevented at all? The answer is definitely yes. There are lots of advantages of preventing an accident. They range from prevention of loss of life to saving everyone, including yourself, from pain, both physical and mental.

How can you prevent accidents? Accidents can be prevented by eliminating the causes for accidents. You have to make it a state of mind, develop habits and preventing bad accidents a way of life. Accidents can happen anywhere. The common types are accidents that happen at home, road traffic accidents, and those at the workplace.

 

Fatal accidents can be prevented by following these tips:
Examine your paradigm regarding accidents

• Change your paradigm to adopt a new one that every accident can be prevented
• Brainstorm various situations in and around you where potential accidents are waiting to happen
• Develop the habit of scanning your environment for possibilities of accidents
• Brainstorm the common causes of accidents that you have been exposed to and take note of them
• Make it a habit to learn from accidents you come across day to day
• Be very alert to lurking dangers
• Keep track of your stress levels-higher your stress the more likely you will have an accident

Bad accidents can be easily prevented. The tips given above are not exhaustive. You make your own list.

 

How to prevent accidents is an important area you need to apply your mind on. Follow these tips and you will prevent a lot of pain for you and your loved ones.

Mood Change Through Music.

Mood change through music!

Mood change through music is the easiest way to tackle mood swings. Music can inspire you. It is something you can easily access, enjoy and use to change the mood when you feel low.

Change of mood is a common problem most of the people encounter. It may be because of accelerating changes people experience day in day out.
Change in mood can affect you negatively, if you don't deal with it and take active steps to feel good. Mood change can be tackled effectively by following the steps outlined below:

Mood change through music:
• Constantly scan the music albums and listen to all kinds of
  music
• Pay attention to music that makes you feel good
• Buy the music albums that inspire you
• Download these albums into your ipod
• Create a favourite list selecting all the music numbers that
   have great impact on your mood in your ipod
• Listen to your positive mood music as often as you want

Mood music compilation is an activity that can give you very high returns. Mood swing can be tackled easily if it is that of the garden variety. Serious mood swings that last for days and weeks will need, however, professional attention.

Mood change through music can not only lift your mood but can also help you to get inspired-try it out and do write your comments here.

Workplace conflict-managing it effectively.

Workplace conflict-managing it effectively.

Workplace conflict can arise suddenly. It may be with your co-worker or boss. Conflict can result in raising the stress levels of both, you and the person with whom you are having a difference of opinion.

Workplace conflict, if not managed, can lead you to build negative images about yourself and your colleague. If you leave it alone for a long time, it can result in a breakdown in the relationship.

Eventually, when you try to resolve it without prior preparation, you can end up with a win lose outcome or a lose win outcome.Managing conflict has several vital steps.

Given below are some key things you can do to emerge with a win win outcome and build relationship while at it:

• Get facts on the table
• Look at the problem from the other persons angle
• Look at the problem from your side
• Imagine both of you looking at the problem together
• Brainstorm different alternative approaches to solve it
• Choose the best approach
• Remember the rational for the chosen approach

These steps will prepare you thoroughly for the negotiation to resolve the conflict.

Once you set up the meeting you need to follow the steps given below:

• Vote for talking first
• Show a lot of respect
• Acknowledge the validity of others point of view
• State your own point of view
• State the solution with the benefits
• Openly talk about the pros and cons
• Invite the other person to comment on your solution
• Fine tune the solution based on the inputs given
• Be always prepared to consider alternative approaches
• Arrive at the final solution together

Once you do this you will feel the stress lifting and your relationship growing while both of you have arrived at the win win outcome.

Workplace conflict can be resolved promptly-act now and build relationships.

How to build trust?

How to build trust?

How to build trust? This is a question that you need to address day in day out. You may need to build trust in a variety of situations and with variety of people. Building rapport is the first step to build trust.



Creating confidence can be done using the following tips:


• Be punctual in your appointments


• Smile and smile genuinely


• Be kind and polite


• Show a lot of care sincerely


• Listen to understand


• Practice empathic listening


• Convey to the person that you have understood
   what he or she has said


• Clarify expectations


• Have a problem solving attitude


• Consider the other person’s win along with yours


• Promise only those things you can deliver


• Deliver what you have promised


• Always exceed your promises


It is amazing how often people violate these areas and still expect trust to grow.


“How to build trust?” is a question that you need to tackle, so follow these tips and win on a daily basis.

Good self esteem



Good self esteem

Good self-esteem is very important. One of the main barriers for you to maintain good self-esteem is the residual of regret that you carry with you every day. Constant regret will undermine your self-confidence.


Tips on self confidence you will find below is all about how to get rid of the regret and safeguard your esteem.

Feel good tips to counter and handle regret effectively:

• Acknowledge the mistake you made.
• Tell yourself that it is ok to make mistakes for you are only human.
• Substitute “if only I had done -“with “Now and next time I will do differently.”
• Pack all the regret in your imaginary suitcase and throw it into a nearby lake.
• Talk to a trusted friend who will encourage you to overcome the regret.
• Listen to feel good music.
• Watch feel good movies.
• Enjoy nature.
• Develop an action plan to do better.
• Pray deeply for guidance and leave the rest to God.

Feeling good tips given above can go a long way to get rid of your regrets and boost your personal confidence. Practice them one by one and see for yourself the amazing results.

Good self-esteem is precious, so protect it at all cost.

Decisions Making

Decisions Making

Decisions making is the key factor that will make you a success or a failure. In fact you can avoid a lot of pain and failure if you approach making decisions carefully and systematically. However most of the people neglect this very important part in their life and live with consequences of wrong decisions.

Making decisions can be greatly improved if you know the way to arrive at decisions that are well thought through. It is all about knowing and using appropriate decision making tools. Let me give you one such tool in this post.

Decisions making can be greatly improved by following a very simple but powerful technique called generating alternatives. Most people generate very few alternatives during their decision making process. What you should do is to generate at least five to seven alternatives before you choose a specific alternative. You can never know, your seventh alternative may be the best and you will lose out if you stop at your first or second idea.

Decisions making technique of generating alternatives to a quota of five or seven if used consistently will surprise and delight you.

Decisions making is the most important skill that you need to master. Use this technique right away.

Boredom fighting techniques




Boredom fighting techniques

 Boredom Fighting techniques are very important for you to learn because boredom is a problem that you will have to grapple with time and again. What are the main causes of boredom?

Let me give you a sample list:

• Getting stuck in a routine

• Getting too narrowly focused

• Not having variety of experience in life

• Hanging around with the same people

• Not taking risk

• Not going after the goals you want

• Pursuing goals set by someone else

These are just a few causes of the problem.

Boredom is problem that has been around for quite some times. Let me give you some interesting boredom quotes:

Boredom quotes:

Life swings like a pendulum backward and forward between pain and boredom. -Arthur Schopenhauer

When people are bored, it is primarily with their own selves that they are bored. -Eric Hoffer

Perhaps the world's second worst crime is boredom. The first is being a bore. -Jean Baudrillard

In order to live free and happily, you must sacrifice boredom. It is not always an easy sacrifice. - Richard Bach

The first step is however to be self-aware that you are bored. Here are some symptoms for you to watch out:

• Low energy

• Procrastination

• Irritability

• Loss of interest in stuff which you one enjoyed

• Increasing desire to run away from the person you

   are conversing with

• Admiring people on TV sitcoms and wishing you

   had a life like theirs

• Dragging yourself to work

Let me suggest an exercise to assess whether you are really bored of boredom. Keep track of how many times you have been bored in a week by reflecting every day before going to sleep.

Being aware is first of the combat techniques against boredom. I will give you further tips on fighting boredom in the subsequent posts.

Stay tuned to learn boredom fighting techniques.