How to get better every step of the way?

Over a period of time you, like all of us, would have collected detrimental habits, thoughts, and attitudes in a bad baggage.
If you are like most of us, you will continue to carry this ever accumulating burden of bad baggage.

How do you lessen the burden? Alternatively, even eliminate it for ever?

Here are a few tips to reduce your burden:
  • Empty the “bag” and examine the contents-bad habits, thoughts, and attitudes.
  • Choose one habit you want to eradicate.
  • Define the end state- the new habit.
  • Develop action steps to develop the habit-start small.
  • Give yourself at least a month before you decide the habit has been formed.
  • Take the help of your loved one to motivate, control and monitor you.
  • Celebrate once you have achieved your goal.
You need to do this day in day out,  you will find that in a year's time your burden is much lesser and you are feeling good because you have changed.

How to take a mini holiday every day?

I was sitting in the security area of a large automotive company for which my daughter is consulting.

The car had gone in order to drop her, and I was awaiting for the car to come back.

As I sat there I noticed a landscaped lawn, a thick bunch of trees with green leaves, and emerging right through the foliage were two coconut palms. The coconut palms had not so fully developed yellow coconuts against a backdrop of the blue sky. The palm leaves were swaying lazily and seem to exude a sense of peace.

Instantly I remembered my childhood when I use to look at trees with branches and leaves swaying in the wind. I had missed this scene all these days as I was internally preoccupied with my own thoughts. I looked at the beautiful scene for a long time and felt peace and joy.

The lesson I learnt today was that  I can always actively seek beautiful scenes and enjoy them every day.

I can choose to go on a mini holiday anytime I want, and it is completely free of any cost.

Do you protect your loved ones from negative inputs from others?

All your loved ones will be having conversations with people day in day out. Most of the conversations are that of the garden variety, causing no harm. However, once in a while they may encounter a person who instils in them a strong negative idea.

Example: you are a born loser; you are dumb;---

How do you ensure that the strong negative idea does not harm your loved one.

Here are a few tips:

  • Build trust that they are willing to share with you their experience or conversation frequently.
  • Be aware of the non verbal signals, especially of your children. If you find their face worried or anxious, or they appear withdrawn then you need to find out the reason.
  • When they begin to talk to you stop everything and listen to them carefully. Do not negate their statements rather demonstrate by reflecting of what they say that you completely understand their content and the feelings.
  • When they have felt understood by you, you can begin to destroy the negative inputs.
  • Be patient because your attempt to negate the negative inputs may take a while.

Always be alert of how the world is affecting your loved ones. Make sure that you process their experience and turn them into something good and productive.

This is especially important if you have children. Neglect this one duty and you will let the children carry a burden, all through their lives.


Do you use a checklist to be healthy?

It is very easy to fall sick when you are careless. This is especially true for illness like fever, common cold, throat infection ---

In your busy life, you may often neglect to take precautions that will prevent certain common illness you may catch easily.

Here is a checklist for you to prevent you from falling sick.

  • Get into the habit of washing your hands with soap before you eat anything.
  • Eat at regular intervals, preferably every two hours.
  • Wash yourself everyday-have bath.
  • Brush your teeth before going to bed
  • Have a good night’s sleep-sleep at least 8 hours a day.
  • Eat balanced food-consult a professional.
  • Check the weather before you choose your dress for the day.
  • Have a medical check up every now and then-Twice in a year.
  • Exercise regularly.
  • Enjoy out door sports or activities.
  • Eat a lot of fruits and vegetables.
  • Relieve your stress through meditation.

Please consult a doctor before you make any changes in your routines, especially related to exercising and food.