The common mistakes I observe, day in day out, are:
- Do nothing-allow conflicts to pile up one above the other
- Wait for the "last straw on the camel's back" and explode
- Withdraw completely and give the silent treatment to the other person
- Be unreasonable and unwilling to listen to the other's view point
- Play the blame game
- Crush and suppress the other person because you are taller or stronger or elder or you have some kind of authority on him/her
- Say mean and hurtful things which you actually don't mean
- Bottle up your hurt for hours, days, weeks, months, years or the entire lifetime
- Not make the first move to resolve the conflict and wait for the other person to take the initiative
- Show your anger on someone else
- Try to solve the conflict in the heat of the moment, instead of waiting for more saner times
- Labeling each other in a hurtful manner
In case you are making any of the mistakes mentioned above, it is time to stop them now.
Invariably, your willingness to make the first move to reach out and resolve the conflict will be your first step towards resolving it.
Do you have someone with whom you have had a major conflict? Make that first move, be patient and invest in the process of conflict resolution, and try your best to resolve it.
You may be surprised by the results because in many cases the conflict may get resolved much quicker than you think.
Buy this book by Tim Ursiny and you will be able to handle conflict bravely. Here is the link to the book!