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What are the causes of conflict? It is too late to think of the cause if you are already in a conflict. The best time to think of the causes of conflict is during peacetime so to speak.

How many times have you made the same mistake repeatedly and triggered the causes of conflict?

Given below are the common causes of conflict:

Mind reading – you assume negative things the other person is thinking about you and feel angry.
You are so self-centered that you fail to consider other person’s needs.
You are carrying a heavy baggage of hurts, insults, and suspicions.
Your Leadership and management styles are authoritarian.
Your Leadership and management styles do not leave any room for listening.
You are taking relationships for granted.
You are under tremendous stress, or you are unable to spot the stress in others.
You have a suboptimal Leadership and management styles.
You have poor conflict resolution skills.
Your empathy is so low that you are unable to put yourself in other’s shoes.
You have differences in values with others, and you are not even aware of it.
Your goals are misaligned with others, and you are pulling in different directions.
You have an inbuilt prejudice that you are not even aware of, and it is affecting your relationship with certain kinds of people repeatedly.
You have very poor listening skills and most of the time you are not registering in what others say.
You are very selfish, and you are concerned only of your needs and wants.

These are some of the main causes of conflict. A lot of it has to do with your personality and some of it has to do with your Leadership and management styles.

The bad news is that you will find it difficult to change as these are hardened habits of behavior. However, the good news is that you can change if you are determined and work hard.

The first step you can take is to increase your awareness of these causes of conflict and resolve to remove the causes one by one.

It will also be a good idea to go for some excellent training programs where they teach you leadership management styles that are based on sound leadership and management values.

Human Resources - Twelve easy steps to get a dream job?

Are you bored with your current job or even your career? Whatever be your status, this post will set you thinking in the right direction and show you steps to get the dream job you want.

The last place to seek help is your human resources department. While the human resources department is very useful for many other things, it is less helpful for finding you a dream job.

Every human resources department of every company is set to guide you based on the organization’s agendas around which it operates. Hence, your human resources department has its own limitations.

Let’s first define a dream job:

A dream job is one that will wake you up in the morning. It is a job you will be obsessed about. A dream job will make you work 24/7, and you will still feel fresh.

If you ask your human resources department for guidance, they will not have such a job for you. If they have, then you are lucky, and you need to grab it.

If you are bored with your job, then there is a good chance that it is not aligned to your vision of an ideal job.

The usual ways' people arrive at their jobs are given below:

Chance played a major role in their choice
They took a job their friends went after
Parental guidance led them to take their current job
They got locked into a job based on what they studied in college
They took the job solely for the money it offered

Well, the list can go on and on. About, 80% of your company’s employees would have landed their jobs based on above routes. This is the reason why your human resources department finds it so difficult to motivate employees and keep them motivated.

Given below are some steps you can take immediately to land yourself a dream job.

Here are the steps:

Accept that, your job is boring and stop rationalizing about it
Go to a quiet place and write for 5 minutes the kind of job that will excite you based on the definition given in this post
Be bold and challenge everything while you write about your dream job
Write about your dream job without any limitations in your mind
Revisit what you have written after a day or two.
Finalize the dream job write up after a week.
Draw up an action plan for getting your dream job
Consider re-skilling if necessary
Determine a deadline for getting your dream job
Network with people who are already in your dream job
Land your dream job
Celebrate

You may be able to get a your dream job quickly, or it may take you a few years depending on your situation. However, you will find that is not only the dream job that will excite you but also the very journey to reach your dream job that will be fulfilling.

Once you land your dream job then you can tell the human resources department the real reason you are quitting, which is boredom. Hopefully, you will set them thinking.

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