|Causes of conflict - 115/365: Anger Management Style #1 (Photo credit: by Janine)|
How many times have you made the same mistake repeatedly and triggered the causes of conflict?
Given below are the common causes of conflict:
- Mind reading – you assume negative things the other person is thinking about you and feel angry.
- You are so self-centered that you fail to consider other person’s needs.
- You are carrying a heavy baggage of hurts, insults, and suspicions.
- Your Leadership and management styles are authoritarian.
- Your Leadership and management styles do not leave any room for listening.
- You are taking relationships for granted.
- You are under tremendous stress, or you are unable to spot the stress in others.
- You have a suboptimal Leadership and management styles.
- You have poor conflict resolution skills.
- Your empathy is so low that you are unable to put yourself in other’s shoes.
- You have differences in values with others, and you are not even aware of it.
- Your goals are misaligned with others, and you are pulling in different directions.
- You have an inbuilt prejudice that you are not even aware of, and it is affecting your relationship with certain kinds of people repeatedly.
- You have very poor listening skills and most of the time you are not registering in what others say.
- You are very selfish, and you are concerned only of your needs and wants.
The bad news is that you will find it difficult to change as these are hardened habits of behavior. However, the good news is that you can change if you are determined and work hard.
The first step you can take is to increase your awareness of these causes of conflict and resolve to remove the causes one by one.
It will also be a good idea to go for some excellent training programs where they teach you leadership management styles that are based on sound leadership and management values.