We were searching for some drawing tools for my new hobby; I am learning to draw cartoons.
As we went from one aisle to another, we finally reached the aisle where the stationary items were displayed.
I went half way in and my way was blocked by a man who did not respond to me when I told him, "Excuse me!"; As I moved forward, when I got a chance, I told him to stand aside, as he was blocking the way of others.
My tone was tough, rough, and expressed exasperation. As we continued to search for the items in that aisle, a lady came to me and said that the person, who was blocking the way, was an old man, 72 years old.
She picked up a fight with me and said, "That is not the way to talk to an old man!" I further got irritated and put her in her place!
Later on while reflecting on the incident, I felt that I had committed serious error.
Why did this happen?
Here are the reasons:
- I assumed that the man stood there, blocking the way, on purpose
- I assumed that he did not care for me
- I assumed that he was arrogant
- I did not even look at the man and hence, did not notice that he was old
Here are some more thoughts that came to me while reflecting on the incident:
- May be he was deaf
- May be he had a recent operation and could not move swiftly
- May be his reflexes are slow at his age
- May be he was preoccupied with his worries and did not hear me
- May be he was arrogant
I always thought I was a compassionate person.
I learnt that you can be compassionate only if you are aware!
You can be compassionate only if you observe others and their situation.
You can be compassionate only if you pause and not react blindly to your assumptions.
Another lesson I learnt is that old people are like children. We need to take care of them and ensure that they do not come in the way of others or are not a nuisance others.
We need to be behind them, just as we would be with a small child. We need the compassion and caring to do so!
I decided that never again will I loose my temper because of my assumptions. I also decided to be more aware of others to be more compassionate.
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